I had a few requests to do this blog post. How did you know you wanted to have three?
When Bea was born and diagnosed, I thought she would be our only one. She had medical challenges and, at the time, I couldn’t see past the hospital stays, the several blood draws a week, etc. This baby of mine needed SO much attention that I didn’t think there was room in my life or my heart for one more.
When Bea was 6 months old we decided that the best thing we could do for our family was to have another baby. It would create the normalcy we craved and we always wanted more than one. Yes, the transplant threw us for a major loop but let’s keep it moving and continue on what we wanted before.
SO, when Bea was just a year old (6 months after her transplant), we got pregnant again. I’ll never forget telling my parents and the sheer shock and worry and joy on their faces. I was worried too – could I handle it all? But on we pressed and in 2016 we welcomed the spark that is Poppy.
Sisters were perfect for us. They were immediate buddies and seeing their relationship is great even now – it is so special. Everything seemed to be just as we hoped – normal, fun, the girls played great together, and it was getting easier.
At first, I thought we were finished. We were so thrilled to have these two healthy girls and honestly, I felt content. But that didn’t last long. Like I mentioned earlier, I am 1 of 3 girls so the thought of adding just one more seemed totally doable to me. And would I be lucky enough to have 3 girls?!
There was no major light bulb moment for me – just a lingering feeling like our family wasn’t complete. We had a few conversations about it and decided that if it happened for us, we would be blessed. And, our 3rd night in the new house we found out that we were due in April 2019 with our third baby.
My advice to those of you who are considering having another or adding to your family – if you are thinking of it – do it. My aunt told me something that has stayed with me always:
You will never regret adding another person to your family. You’ll only regret it if you don’t.