it’s been almost 4 months…

I woke up this morning wanting to blog.  I haven’t had that desire in the last 4 months!

There has been so much craziness over the last several months I don’t know where to even begin.  If you follow along on Instagram (@hillarykweidner) and follow my Instagram stories, you are likely vvvvv up to date on my life.  If not, here are the cliffsnotes….

  1.  Last post was February 7th which was my 33rd birthday
  2. After that, and being so pregnant and dealing with 2 little girls, still working, volunteering, etc – I lost the time and motivation to blog.  Not intentionally, it just faded away from my normal list of things to get accomplished.
  3. I got really sick.  Right before Louise was born, Jordan was out of town and I woke up in the middle of the night not feeling well.  Just a headache but I had a glass of wine the night before so thought nothing of it.  Went to work, and headed home around 1pm to get into bed and jus rest before I took on night time duty alone.  I woke up at 430pm, still not feeling well and my mom encouraged me to call my OBGYN.  They said that I should get checked out by my general practitioner who was out on medical leave so they then told me to pop into urgent care.  My mom came to pick me up and thinking this would be a quick stop (again, wasn’t feeling THAT bad), I only wore my PJs, slippers, and put my ID and a credit card into my coat pocket.  Arrive at Urgent Care, seen by the doc, and then told they needed to order me an ambulance and rush me to the hospital because I had Influenza A (or B…I can’t remember), and my heart rate was WAY too high. I refused the ambulance because I still didn’t feel that bad but the doctor fought me on it and finally said that if we promised to go straight to the ER than she would let me.  We arrive at the ER and they are waiting for me (the doctor who I saw at Urgent Care had already called twice to make sure I made it there) and they started monitoring the baby, pumping me with fluids and running additional tests.  They also found pneumonia.
  4. Sorry this is so long.
  5. I ended up staying in the hospital for 3 days and the goal for those 3 days was to keep the baby inside.  I was like 33 weeks. Luckily, they caught everything and after getting fluids, monitored, medication, etc the baby’s heart rate went back to normal and I was able to rest at home.
  6. Then, the onset of Cholestasis.  They think being so sick triggered Cholestatsis – which is basically when you have a build up of bile inside your body and you can’t stop itching.  Your whole body itches and there isn’t anything there – it’s like a total mind game.  And this may sound like not a big deal but when you feel like bugs are crawling all over your skin 24/7 – you don’t sleep, you don’t eat, you have bruises all over your body from itching, and you are legit going crazy.  If you do get Cholestatsis you typically only have it a day or two before they decide to just deliver the baby.  I had it 2 days with Poppy and then delivered her at 39.5 weeks.  I can honestly say it was the most physically uncomfortable 2 days of my life. This time, I was 34 weeks with no option to deliver early.
  7. It became so bad and I was bruised from head to toe from itching (and it can actually be harmful for the baby) that they sent me to the hospital for indepth tests on the baby, steroid shots to help develop the lungs and I delivered her at 36ish weeks.
  8. We added a third girl to our #girlgang.  Louise Kelly Weidner was born at 8am on March 19th.  A healthy 7lbs 2oz dark haired and blue eyed baby who has been a complete joy ever since.



So, here we are today.  Louise is 11 weeks and these are my last several days of maternity leave.  It has totally flown.  Like beyond flown by but I have definitely tried my best to soak in ever ounce of her.

Over the next several weeks I plan to do a few posts about fun summer clothing I have purchased recently, Bea’s health status and a challenging decision we have ahead for her, the 3rd anniversary of losing Dad, and all things baby and kid related.  Check back here when you can and, in the meantime, follow along on Instagram (@hillarykweidner).




valentine’s gift ideas


Happy Thursday  Well, mostly happy.  Long story long – I have had to take it majorly easy this week with my feet up because this baby is pinching a nerve and  Hoping a couple days of feet up and a visit to a chiro will help make this more manageable. 8 weeks to go.

In the meantime, my favorite holiday is coming up – Valentine’s Day! Sounds stupid but this has been my favorite holiday since I was little.  I ALWAYS had a Valentine in my Dad and no matter what and no matter where I lived – a box of chocolates and a very “dadish” card would be at my doorstep.  He even joked that when we got married the Valentine’s would stop because we officially had our own but he couldn’t resist and continued the tradition up until he was gone.

Besides always loving my Valentine, I just love that there is a day dedicated towards telling people that you love them.  Sounds silly, but it is such a happy holiday and I look forward to it every year.

This year, I put together extra special Valentine’s for the girls and wanted to share just incase you need ideas for your little ones 😉

Okay, my favorite thing I purchased for Valentine’s is actually from Jordan to the girls.  They are OBSESSED with doing puzzles with him when he gets home from work.  It’s so cute how patient he is with them and how they have actually become good listeners while doing it.  I even see Bea helping Poppy do puzzles outside of this time with Jordan and she teaches and talks to her the way Jordan does – it’s really sweet.

Anyway – I put together a Shutterfly book for them with pictures from our trip to Disney.  I also had a personalized puzzle made with a picture of the three of them from the trip.  I’m so excited to give it to them!  Click the link below and look at a few other ideas for VDay

Personalized puzzle HERE

Family t-shirts HERE

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Heart pajamas HERE

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Heart leggings HERE


Heart purse HERE


Love Bug PJs HERE

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Be Mine purse HERE




Activity book HERE


Heart Apron HERE



Mini spatula HERE



Valentine’s Pez HERE





milestones at the weidners (part 1)


So many milestones at the Weidners over the last couple of weeks and I feel like I need to document!  Some of you follow along on Instagram (@hillarykweidner) but if you don’t – head over.  I have been posting so much more in my Insta story just because it is so much easier and more convenient!

Anyway!  I had some things I wanted to make sure happened before baby #3 comes (April 9th is the target date!).  I wanted Poppy potty trained, Bea to be able to swallow her medication, Poppy to finish up with the pacifier and officially move Poppy and Bea into the same room.

Yes, there are a lot of things but I gave myself until January 1st to start tackling.  I had a timeframe I wanted each thing done but basically, I wanted all of the above completed by April 1st so I had time to get the nursery ready and fully stocked for baby #3!

#1 to tackle – having Beatrice swallow her medication.  I

f you remember, Beatrice has to take an immunosuppressant at 7:30am and 7:30pm every day.  You can’t be early with it, late with it, and mot certainly can’t skip it.  Her life literally depends on this medication as it shields her liver from being rejected.  (Rejection can still happen but likelihood decreases when on this medication).  When administering this medication, we always emptied the pill into a dish, mixed it with 1.5ML of water, drew it in a syringe, added .5ML to the dish, mixed it, drew it again with the same syringe and gave the whole 2MLs to her.  We did this twice a day and it was super complicated, time consuming, and I – personally – dreaded doing it. BUT – we were doing it this way because her pills are HUGE.  If you want to envision size, think like a One a Day pill or a Mike n Ike.  Huge.

End of last year we were chatting with Dr Campbell and she brought up that continually taking the medication like this can put Bea at risk (very small risk, but still a risk) of tongue and throat cancer.  If you think about it, the way we were giving her the medication wasn’t protecting it until it reached her belly.  It was directly hitting her tongue and throat.  Just the word CANCER was enough for us to spring into action.

I made an appointment at CCHMC with their psychology department.  I had been wanting to make a contact there and build a relationship long term anyway.  With a daughter who has some limitations and could run into body image issues with a scar as big as hers – I wanted someone I could chat with (and she could chat with) if any of these issues ever arose.  Learning how to swallow a pill was the perfect excuse.

Long story LONG – we met with a wonderful lady Michelle and she showed Bea and I how to work on some things at home.  This appointment was in early January and we all set the goal that by April 1st she would be able to swallow her medication with water.  To get to that point, we would take a couple of weeks and work on swallowing a little sprinkle.  Then we would move up to a Nerd.  And then a Jelly Belly.  And then a couple of weeks swallowing a regular Jelly Bean. And the last couple of weeks practicing swallowing a Mike n Ike.

**Next time you or your kids are eating Mike n Ikes…look how big they are.  They are slightly bigger than Bea’s medication but not by much.

We went home that Friday with our plan and Sunday while Poppy was down for a nap, Jordan and I pulled out the thing of sprinkles and a cup of water.  We walked through and Jordan demonstrated.  We handed a sprinkle and cup of water over to Bea thinking this was the start of our 2 weeks with the sprinkle challenge.

She swallowed the sprinkle right away.

Totally shocked, we moved on to the Nerd.  Again, did it right away.

Could she do a Jelly Belly?  Oh yeah – no problem.

No way she would be able to do a regular Jelly Bean.  Literally, no sweat.

At this point Jordan and I were laughing so hard (I was definitely laughing through my tears) that Bea could just do as instructed without any issues.  She has always been a rule follower but her ease in taking on each item was alarming to me.

Do we try the Mike n Ike?  It’s huge.  What if she chokes?

We slid a red Mike n Ike across the counter, she looked at it, put it in her mouth, took a sip of water and stuck out her tongue.

I was shook.

I burst into tears.

For someone that has had such a challenging path, she somehow makes these types of things seem so easy.

SO – long story long.  Bea hit her milestone on her first try and I was able to breathe a MAJOR sigh of relief that we wouldn’t have to go through the arduous process of convincing her to swallow her medication.  It is SAFER now for her, it has cut down on major time for us, we can leave babysitters to give the medication in the evening, and the daily dread of being Bill Nye the Science Guy is over.

Win. Win. Win.

Thank you Cincinnati Children’s Hospital for providing us with a great resource for this milestone to tackle and for always being a great partner in Queen Bea’s care.